Research shows that between 19, suicide among men age 50 and over rose by nearly 50 percent.
The Emotional isolation is ranked as high a risk factor for mortality as smoking.
A partial list of the physical diseases thought to be caused or exacerbated by loneliness would include Alzheimer’s, obesity, diabetes, high blood pressure, heart disease, neurodegenerative diseases, and even cancer — tumors can metastasize faster in lonely people.
As I sat down to write about Niobe Way’s research, a tweet by the philosopher Alain de Botton popped up in my stream:“An epidemic of loneliness generated by the misguided idea that romantic love is the only solution to loneliness.”And there you have it.
What Niobe Way illuminates in her book is nothing less than the central source of our culture’s epidemic of male loneliness.
Driven by our collective assumption that the friendships of boys are both casual and interchangeable, along with our relentless privileging of romantic love over platonic love, we are driving boys into lives Professor Way describes as “autonomous, emotionally stoic, and isolated.” What’s more, the traumatic loss of connection among boys is directly linked to our struggles as men in every aspect of our lives.
Just a decade before, only one out of five said that.
And men are facing the brunt of this epidemic of loneliness.
They use the word “love” and they are proud to do so.
Consider this quote from a 15-year-old boy named Justin:[My best friend and I] love each other… you have this thing that is deep, so deep, it’s within you, you can’t explain it…